Ah… I leave the site alone for a while and the whole world changes around me.
First – I get this notice that good old Chrome is forcing everybody to make https the standard and so we have to implement SSL or people will get nasty red alerts on their browsers saying to stay away from the site because it isn’t secure. Sigh. So someone offers free SSL and all you have to do is say yes, right?
Wrong.
It turns out it is very easy to screw up your site settings if you don’t know EXACTLY what you’re doing. At least my host was able to give me access back 🙂
So I won’t be adding SSL unless I have someone on the phone or chat walking me through it OR have them do the setting remotely so I don’t screw it up again.
Second – I find that things that bothered me sometimes bother me more the older I get.
Take manipulation for example. Anyone bothering to read this will have figured out by now that I believe the Bible and worship Jesus. I am a Christ-follower, a “Christian” in the same sense as they were first called.
So when someone tells me that my attempts to bring an issue to light so it can be discussed and cleared represent “a root of bitterness” that I personally need to forget and forgive them over instead of an offense that other person has committed that needs to be addressed… that’s manipulation. It’s basically saying I’m wrong, they’re right, go hang. And it totally shuts down communication. It is the other person saying they have absolutely no intention of setting things right, and my responsibility is to shut up and take whatever they choose to dish out. Oh, and if I even try to call them on it, my wrong has multiplied and I need to repent.
I have been dealing with people doing this to me for decades. Literally. First my family, then my husband. I can’t even reference something that happened in the past as an object lesson for avoiding present and future misery without being told that I need to get rid of bitterness. I’m not bitter. I’m practical. I don’t want to fall into a pit a second time when I don’t need to.
That’s actually the sentiment that prompted me to come back to the site and post… when I found out how bad I screwed up the SSL issue. So irritation can be a good thing sometimes 🙂